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Savage Love

by Dan Savage April 4, 2012

I have an awesome relationship with an awesome guy. He loves me and takes care of me. I’m GGG and he’s vanilla. I only draw the line at poop, animals, and children. But he’s never ...

My sexy GGG husband and I fuck a “good friend” semiregularly. He’s hot, young, and game to fuck about every other week. We started out wearing condoms, but we’ve had the safe-sex conversation and our ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage December 14, 2011

I’m a man who recently started seeing a wonderful woman. Like me, she’s divorced. While my ex-wife left me for another man, my girlfriend’s ex-husband was controlling and abusive. Our relationship is the opposite—emotionally, psychologically, ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage December 8, 2011

I’m a happily married woman. I have a great sex life with my husband of many years. He’s helped me discover things I didn’t know about myself sexually. The problem: Three years ago, my first ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage November 16, 2011

I’m 21 years old and in a monogamous relationship. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, and it was a really great experience. I was drawn to BDSM even before I began having sex, and ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage November 10, 2011

I’m an evangelical Christian in a country where that is not a political statement. My husband and I have been married five years. We have great sex several times a week despite having two kids ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage November 3, 2011

I am marrying a man with two children—a boy and a girl—and we want to include his children in our wedding party. My best friend and maid of honor happens to work as an escort. ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage October 27, 2011

My boyfriend and I are in college and doing the long-distance thing until June 2013. Over the years, he’s granted me increasing amounts of freedom to be intimate with women—I’m female, and date women while ...

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Savage Love

by Dan Savage October 19, 2011

I broke up with a girl who wasn’t hot enough for me. I tried my whole life to not be that kind of guy. I treated her carelessly because she wasn’t that important to me. ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage October 6, 2011

I am an 18-year-old straight male. I have a hodgepodge of birth defects that affect my genitalia: severe hypospadias (my urethra—my piss slit—is at the base of my penis), micropenis (less than two inches), and ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage September 28, 2011

I am a 23-year-old female, sexually active for seven years, and I can’t reach climax. I am extremely frustrated. I have a wonderfully patient and helpful partner. He has tried hard to no avail. I ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage September 22, 2011

I am a 22-year-old college grad who has been living at home for the last year. My parents are divorced, so I’ve gone back and forth from one place to the other. The other day, ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage September 14, 2011

I am a 16-year-old female. I have been in a monogamous relationship with a boy for seven months. My first, his too. A couple of months in, we began to explore masturbating each other and ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage September 8, 2011

Dear readers: I’m on vacation. The questions and answers in this week’s column are three recent installments of the “Savage Love Letter of the Day,” which folks with the SLAPP—the Savage Love app for iPhone ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage August 31, 2011

I’m in a bad place. I have been in a monogamous marriage for 19 years and have two kids. At least I think we’re still monogamous. My husband is an avid reader of your column ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage August 24, 2011

I’m unemployed in Oregon and trying to come up with simple ways to make rent. My dear wife and I would like your opinion on the legality of selling my teenage son’s sweaty gym clothes ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage August 4, 2011

Hey, everybody: two things . . . First: Last week, the GOP officially “denounced” me. Because the nation is at peace, Americans are going back to work, and the climate situation is completely under control—so, hey, ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage July 28, 2011

When I was 14, my parents informed me that I had a half brother. He was my father’s son by another woman. My parents were already married when my brother was born, but I hadn’t ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage July 13, 2011

I’m a 20-year-old straight male, but this isn’t really about me. I was recently back home for a family event while my younger brother, age 14, was away on a mission trip with his church. My ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage June 29, 2011

In response to a wannabe fister who hadn’t told his girlfriend about his kink, you wrote, “At three years, all your kink cards should be lying faceup on the table.” Really? Then my husband and ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage June 23, 2011

I’m a single 24-year-old gay actor/singer/comedian who’s going to be a doctor in a few years—I have varied interests—and I think being in a porn flick would be really hot. I don’t know what the ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage June 8, 2011

I’m a 22-year-old FTM. I will become a legal male this summer. WOOT. Useless hole but still no pole. My friends—all straight—don’t know I’m FTM because I don’t feel it matters. I don’t know any ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage June 2, 2011

My husband and I recently realized that in order for us to remain happily married, we need to fuck other people. Enter the boyfriend. This 20-year-old hunk has opened the sexual floodgates. He’s gorgeous and athletic ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage May 19, 2011

I suppose you are going to call me an asshole once you have finished reading my letter, but I hope you have some advice for me regardless. I am a 45-year-old heterosexual male. My last relationship ...