a straight male foot fetishist and, like any other American
male, I regularly Google my fetish. Last night I ran across
a Web site promoting foot fetish parties in New York City:
www.foot-worship-party.com. Have you heard of this event?
Is it legit? Is it legal? For a guy with a foot fetish, it
seems almost too good to true, which is why I’m worried. On
the other hand, it seems like a great time for someone with
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definitely legit,” said Jason, the young entrepreneur who
hosts the parties you read about, TOES. “We don’t offer sex
or prostitution. It’s just about worshiping women’s feet.
It’s an erotic party, but there’s no sex.”
Jason got started in the foot-fetish-party hosting business
four years ago and, like all the best kink entrepreneurs,
Jason shares his clients’ fetish. “I’m 26 now and I’ve been
into feet pretty much since I was 8 years old. I didn’t even
know what a foot fetish was, though, until I was 15 and I
started to have some experiences with girls. I paid a lot
of attention to my girlfriends’ feet and soon they started
asking if I had a foot fetish.”
Jason was working in marketing at a health club in Manhattan
when he mustered up enough courage to attend his first foot-fetish
party. “It was awful,” Jason recalled. “The women were not
attractive, there were 100 guys to 20 girls, and the people
who worked there were really unfriendly. My business mind
kicked in and I thought, ‘What if I took this concept and
did it right? A better ratio of guys to girls, hot girls with
beautiful feet, friendly people?’ Boom, I had my first party
and ever since then I’ve been very successful.”
Indeed, Jason’s monthly parties were such a success that he
decided to open a studio in Midtown Manhattan to cater to
foot fetishists who couldn’t or wouldn’t attend his parties.
He calls his studio the Foot Worship Palace (www.footworship
palace.com). Private foot worship sessions at Jason’s studio
cost $200 an hour; entrance to Jason’s foot worship parties
can attend the parties at no charge,” Jason said. “Any woman
who wants to drop by and have men worship her feet is more
than welcome. But we ask women to send an e-mail first with
face shot and clear pictures of the tops and bottoms of their
But why give it away for free, ladies? Attractive women who
don’t mind having their feet kissed, licked, and massaged
can make between $250 and $300 working at one of Jason’s parties.
And what should a woman expect when she walks into one of
his parties? “She’s basically going to have men who are mostly
submissive at her feet. These are men who like the idea of
giving up their power and control and being at a woman’s feet,
worshipping her feet, massaging her toes.” Because he’s not
asking them to do typical sex-industry work, Jason says he’s
able to hire women who wouldn’t normally do erotic work. “We
get real models and actresses, not prostitutes who claim that
they’re models and actresses, along with good-looking professional
women, and college students.”
Before we got off the phone I congratulated Jason on his success.
“Your parents must be so proud,” I said.
they don’t know what I do,” Jason replied. “I grew up in a
very conservative, very religious family. They still think
I’m in the fitness industry.”
I recently posted an Internet ad seeking to purchase used
panties from women. I got e-mails from women who were interested,
but I also got a lot of hurtful e-mail from people telling
me I’m sick and perverted. Surely sniffing used panties while
masturbating is not that bad, is it? What harm am I inflicting
upon anyone or anything?
you should post an Internet ad seeking some balls, VPL. When
people write in to tell you that you’re sick and twisted,
you don’t lock yourself in the bathroom and have a good cry,
you unbelievable pussy. No! You blast back an e-mail that
says, “You’re damn right I’m sick and perverted—and I’m lovin’
every fucking minute of it!”
What do you think of new pronouns for transgender people
such as “zim” and “hir”? A transgender friend has asked that
we start referring to zim by such pronouns. I don’t want to
hurt hir feelings, but I question the efficacy of the strategy.
Aren’t we supposed to be moving toward eliminating gender
from pronouns? And isn’t simplicity the point of pronouns?
think they’re ztupid.
My straight boyfriend has a gay “slave.” My boyfriend is
35, handsome, tall, muscular—the total alpha-male type. His
“slave” is a skinny 20-something gay kid who lives in his
building. This kid does whatever my boyfriend orders him to:
clean his apartment, do his laundry, do his dishes. I think
it’s sick and I want it to stop. My boyfriend loves the free
cleaning service and wants me to get over it. There’s nothing
sexual about their arrangement, so my boyfriend doesn’t see
why it bothers me. I think he’s exploiting a very messed up
kid. What do you think?
the bullshit compassion, TMG. Your boyfriend isn’t exploiting
a “messed up kid.” To the contrary, lady, he’s delighting
a grown man who’s turned on by slaving away for an alpha-male
type. You want it to stop because you don’t want to share
your boyfriend—not even his dirty dishes—with anyone else.
(And the setup is sexual; somebody is beating off about those
dishes—hopefully not over them but definitely about them.)
Perhaps you’ll feel differently if your boyfriend orders his
slave to clean your apartment too.
You missed an excellent opportunity in a recent column
to let your readers know about HPV and its association with
anal cancer. It’s 35 times more common in the gay male population,
and isn’t being screened for very well. In fact, anal cancer
is now more common in gay men than cervical cancer is in women.
If anal cancer is caught/diagnosed early, mortality rates
are much lower. Researchers in the Bay Area are looking at
doing anal Pap smears among the gay male population. Please
let your readers know!
they know, SMS.
Please tell the gay guy who didn’t know how to tell his sex
partner he’d been infected with gonorrhea that he can also
send him an anonymous e-card with all the necessary information
from the following Web site: www.inspot.org.
There Done That
was developed by Internet Sexuality Information Services,
Inc., a nonprofit organization “dedicated to developing and
using Internet technologies to prevent disease transmission.”
You go to the Web site, select an e-card, click on an STD,
and write a few lines of text. Then you enter the e-mail addresses
of the sex partners you would like to notify. Cards can be
sent anonymously or you can include a return e-mail address
(it doesn’t even have to be your own!). I gave the site a
whirl and sent anonymous notices to all of my coworkers, letting
them know that they had been exposed to shigella, molluscum,
and nongonococchal urethritis. Based on the gasps and shrieks
I heard coming from other cubicles all afternoon, BTDT, I’d
say the service works.