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Savage Love

by Dan Savage May 11, 2011

My life is not horrible. I’m an American college student. Compared to most people in the world, I’m pretty well-off. I go to college in Bellingham, Washington—the weed is awesome, the weather is great, and ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage April 27, 2011

I’m a young heteroflexible guy who has been a “sugar baby” for a handful of wealthy older guys. I love it! I get money, I have fun being with them, and the guys seem to ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage April 20, 2011

My wife and I have been married for a few years and are expecting our first child. I’m really into the idea of being sprayed with my wife’s breast milk. The other night, she was ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage April 6, 2011

I came out as trans-something/genderqueer three years ago. I was born male but live my life predominately as female. I’m 25 now. Coming out involved accepting that it would complicate my ever finding someone. I ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage March 30, 2011

DEAR READERS: Folks who have the Savage Love app get the Savage Love Letter of the Day (SLLOTD) delivered to their iPhones or Androids. This week, I’m running three recent SLLOTDs to give my print-only ...

Savage Love 3/3/11

by Dan Savage March 3, 2011

I’m a 41-year-old, very attractive, happily married woman. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. When we first met, the sex was absolutely incredible. After we got married, the sex was good, ...

Savage Love – 2/24/2011

by Dan Savage February 23, 2011

I am 50 and a lesbian. I have had a pretty active sex life for the last 30 years, including a couple of long-term relationships. For the last three years, I’ve been with a woman ...

Savage Love – 2/17/2011

by Dan Savage February 16, 2011

I am a straight man. From high school through college and after, I loved me some women. Then I met my present girl 10 years ago. I fell head over heels for her. I still ...

Savage Love – 2/10/2011

by Dan Savage February 9, 2011

I’ve written before, but I didn’t hear back from you—probably because my e-mail didn’t contain flogging or santorum or whatever. But I won’t be ignored, Dan. I’m a 32-year-old female. Second marriage, two kids: one kid ...

Savage Love – 2/3/2011

by Dan Savage February 2, 2011

I read your column every week, mostly out of abstract interest. My thoughts reading your advice are usually some variation on “Wow, that’s a lot of work to do, just to have a sex life.” ...

Savage Love – 1/27/2011

by Dan Savage January 26, 2011

I’m from the other side of the country, but I’m sitting in my lover’s San Francisco apartment wondering what I’m doing. I flew out here to spend five glorious days with her. We connect sexually ...

Savage Love – 1/20/2011

by Dan Savage January 19, 2011

I am a 23-year-old straight female. A year ago, I moved across the country after college to live with my boyfriend of four years. He is in graduate school and is the only person I ...

Savage Love – 1/13/2011

by Dan Savage January 12, 2011

Evelyn Salt is an uber patriot, I thought, watching the eponymous film the other night. She is such a patriot that she will kill and kill and kick and kill some more. Such a patriot ...

Savage Love – 1/6/2011

by Dan Savage January 5, 2011

I’m a 27-year-old divorced woman. I married the first man I ever had sex with, and we had a very vanilla sex life. He refused to try any play with dominant/submissive roles. My fantasies have ...

Savage Love – 8/5/2010

by Dan Savage August 4, 2010

My boyfriend and I have “history.” We dated casually and weren’t ready to stop seeing other people, so we had an open relationship. This phase was awful: lots of fights, a couple minor breakups, and ...

Savage Love – 3/10/2010

by Dan Savage March 10, 2010

I am a girl who sabotaged my relationship. I was angry; I had complaints. But my real issue was a store of repressed childhood trauma, and I was working it out on the closest person ...

SAVAGE LOVE

by Dan Savage February 25, 2010

I’m writing to you to settle a dispute between my husband and me. We have been married for six years. We’re not terribly adventurous, but we’re not totally vanilla, either. However, there is one issue ...

SAVAGE LOVE

by Dan Savage February 18, 2010

My boyfriend and I have agreed to abide by whatever decision you make. We’ve been together for nine months. We are gay. We live in a college town. We both found jobs here ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage February 11, 2010

A few years before my wife and I met, she made porn with her boyfriend at the time. He intended to start a pay-per-view Web site but never launched it. I was a bit upset ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage February 4, 2010

Let’s say, theoretically, I’m a pedophile. I’m not stupid or evil, so I’m not gonna DO anything. I’m not even gonna look at porn, because the production of it involves child exploitation. Hell, even porn that’s ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage January 28, 2010

I’m a single (mostly) gay guy who is curious about women. A hot bisexual mate is interested in a friends-with-benefits arrangement. I’m not looking for an LTR just now, so regular, no-strings sex sounds great. ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage January 21, 2010

I have a problem. A key part of my problem, I feel, is that I’m a recovering anorexic and I am still struggling a great deal to eat normal and healthy portions of food. A ...

Savage Love

by Dan Savage January 14, 2010

I am a 34-year-old straight, single female. I have a fantasy I can’t find much about online, so I figured I’d ask you for advice. My fantasy is to be blindfolded, bent over a table/couch/whatever, and ...

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