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I’m
a male sub looking for porn videos catering to a femme dom
audience. I’m not talking about porn directed by men for submissive
men, but porn targeting the appetites of the dominatrix. I’m
not looking for softcore bondage pictures of men, or any other
gay porn. I am looking for hetero femme dom porn videos aimed
at women, with well-groomed male slaves. I’m not looking for
yet another video of penis torture and/or anal rape, where
the female “dom” inevitably gives her slave a blowjob. Femme
dom porn with vampire and werewolf themes would be perfect.
Any suggestions?
—Seeking
Hot Erotica Beloved Of Superior Sex
Porn
created for dominant women featuring well-groomed male slaves
with vampire and werewolf themes—why, I’ve got some of that
right here in my ass, SHEBOSS, just give me a sec and I’ll
pull it out for you.
Look, ladies and gentleman, there’s a lot of porn out there.
If you’ve made a good-faith effort to find porn that caters
to your special needs without much luck, well, then odds are
good that the porn you’re looking for simply doesn’t exist.
And folks? The more ridiculous, obscure, or specific your
requirements—mere femme dom porn won’t do for SHEBOSS, he
requires femme dom vampire/werewolf porn with no CBT, pegging,
or poorly groomed slaves—the harder time you’re going to have
finding porn. (Really, SHEBOSS, you can’t fast-forward past
those blowjobs?)
But don’t despair, SHEBOSS, there is a little porn out there
for you. As kinky blogger CatWoman notes, the best femme dom
porn is produced by advertising agencies, not porn companies.
Dig around the archives of CatWoman’s blog (earthacatslair.blogspot.com),
SHEBOSS, and you’ll find plenty of examples of clean-cut boys
serving dominant women in print and television ads created
to sell shoes, clothes, cars, etc. to women—no pegging, no
CBT, no blowjobs, no unkempt slave boys. No vampires or werewolves
either, sadly, but a boy can’t have everything.
Oh, and a note to gay dudes into visual depictions of well-groomed
gay male slaves (and all those straight women and lesbians
out there who like gay porn, too): Kink.com’s new gay site—its
first—goes live August 1. BoundGods.com was created for Kink.com
by Van Darkholme: porn star, bondage artist, author, and occasional
Savage Love guest expert. Check it out.
First, the formalities: I adore your column, I’ve been reading
it since I was a single fundamentalist far-right whackjob
and I read it now that I’m a married far-left feminist with
kids.
Secondly, the problem: I’m married (not the problem) to a
wonderful, funny, hardworking, sensitive-yet-manly dude, and
the mother to two little ones (one just out of diapers, one
newborn). Breaking the problem into two parts . . .
Part one: Oral sex—hate to give it, hate to receive it. I
tried, bravely, but invariably ended up vomiting, which, as
my husband points out, is not sexy unless you’re into that
sort of thing. Husband has done without oral for five years.
Please don’t hit me. He states this is not a problem.
Part two: Since going on medication for postpartum depression,
I now have negative interest in sex. The very thought makes
me want to run shrieking naked down the street, which isn’t
sexy, unless, again, you’re into that sort of thing. I feel
relentless guilt, and have tried to work up a state of interest
for my poor, deprived, wonderful husband, but I can’t even
achieve neutrality.
I don’t know what to do. It took multiple medication
adjustments to find something that left me able to function
as a mother and a human being (minus, you know, the sex thing),
so the thought of messing with my meds terrifies me. So should
my husband dump the motherfucker (me!) already? (Please say
no!) And please remember when you answer that I really, really,
really love you, in a nonperverse sort of way, and if you’re
harsh, I’ll be crushed.
—New
England Girl Doesn’t
Breaking
my answer into three parts . . .
One: If going without oral isn’t a problem for your husband,
it’s not a problem—not for you, NEGD, and certainly not for
me.
Two: Perhaps you should talk to your doctor about the little
blue pill. A study published last week showed that Viagra,
which doesn’t have much effect on women generally, improves
sexual response in measurable ways for women taking antidepressants.
The study just came out, blah blah blah, more research needs
to be done, wocka wocka wocka, but it’s certainly worth looking
into.
Three: You have small children, postpartum depression, and
you’re on meds. Cut yourself some slack. New fathers have
suffered worse indignities than a year or two of shitty or
nonexistent sex while their wives adjust and recover. You
should, however, encourage your husband to masturbate frequently,
masturbate him yourself occasionally, and, if you can go there,
allow him to discreetly seek relief in one of New England’s
finer jack shacks until you wean yourself off the meds.
There’s only one way to make amends for your canned-ham
crack, Dan. To balance the scales for the canned-ham slight,
open up a contest finding the least sexy description of a
penis. Fair’s fair.
—Jeff
If
there’s a less sexy description for penis than the word “penis,”
Jeff, I can’t think of it. The words vagina, labia, and clitoris—with
their wide-open vowels and consonant combinations that force
you to roll the words around in your mouth—are poetry compared
to “penis” with its pinched, urine-invoking first syllable
and its hissed second. Again, I very much doubt that anyone
can come up with something less sexy. But anyone inspired
to try is welcome to cram one in my inbox.
I know you don’t like the praise e-mails, but you’re just
going to have to bend over and take this one.
This weekend, I had sex after a long relationship, a breakup,
and a full year with no dick. And the sex was terrible.
He wasn’t at all willing to do the things I needed him to
do for me, even though I was very kind and playful and upbeat
about all the great ways there were to please me. No, he was
just in a major hurry to cram his dick in me and then go to
sleep.
I gave another chance this weekend, Dan, and I got the same
treatment. So I got my ass out of his bed and caught a cab
home. As I stood there in the rain at 4 AM. on a Chicago street
corner, with wet hair and shoes and panties, I thought about
you, Dan, and how if I’d never started listening to your podcast
and reading your column, I’d be one of those girls who this
guy has no doubt dated in the past, a girl who just lies there
and pretends to get off on his dick alone, never says a word
about her needs, and just accepts bad sex as a given.
I dumped the motherfucker already, Dan, so I’m single,
26, GGG, and ready to take on this city’s male population.
Thanks for schooling me on how to detect the assholes, and
how to be vocal about my own needs!
—J.
We
bend and take to please, J. Thanks for sharing.
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