love you, Dan, but you are so WRONG about tighty-whities!
Last week you told Suffering Latent “Underpants” Trauma, a.k.a.
SLUT, that men look good in tighty-whities. WRONG! If you
like men in those horrible-Homer-Simpson-retarded-white things,
Dan, you’re a FREAKING retard. As a straight woman who is
outspoken on this subject, I know I am not alone when I say
that men look RIDICULOUS (even hairless gay ones) in TWs!
Please don’t encourage already fashion-challenged straight
men to wear those AWFUL things! TWs get “stained” more easily
than boxers, if you know what I mean, and being forced to
see something like that is a gross violation of a woman’s
piece of mind! The fucking things should be outlawed!
Go ahead and slam me, Dan, but you’re wrong, wrong, WRONG!
More Tighty Whities
are wrong? No, let me tell you what’s wrong: Thoroughly
Modern Millie getting the Tony for Best New Musical over
Urinetown is wrong. George W. Bush’s opposition to
an independent commission to investigate the intelligence
failures that laid out the welcome mat for the Sept. 11 terrorists
is wrong. But tighty-whities on a boyish and slim and
hairless man? That’s righter than right.
Like I told SLUT, TWs only look good on the right guys—and
only when they’re clean, of course. (Any man with thoroughly
modern personal hygiene practices should be able to keep his
TWs clean.) And I’m sorry, NMTW, but I hardly think a woman—a
representative of the gender most likely to wear WRONG, RIDICULOUS,
AWFUL thongs!—is in any position to cast aspersions on males
who wear tighty-whities! At the end of the day, the average
man’s TW is a hell of a lot cleaner than the average woman’s
Dan, Dan, Dan . . . I thought you would have learned from
Thong-gate that underwear rules are different for gay vs.
straight people! Straight men need to know the following underwear
1. Thongs: Never.
2. Tighty-whities: If you’re sending pics to sex-advice columnists
or looking to get sucked by a guy at the gym.
3. Boxers: If and only if your balls don’t fall out when you
4. Boxer briefs: If you want to turn a woman on!
5. Commando: You better have a damn good reason.
Please, Dan, you changed your stance on thongs for women to
give straight guys a break. I’m not asking for a complete
retraction, just tell the guys this: BOXER BRIEFS!
Advice Columnist Keeps All Guys Educated
for sharing, PACKAGE.
I think your opinion about tighty-whities is as just as
“dangerous and inaccurate” as SLUT’s opinion, Dan. OK, so
you only find guys who are boyish and slim and
hairless sexy in TWs. That doesn’t mean you should make
people who don’t fit into your narrow definition of sexy feel
self-conscious! I’m a muscular 42-year-old man and I have
some body hair and I’ve been told that I look fucking hot
Obnoxious Underwear Bigotry Is Gross, Tighty Whities Are Tops
a minute, YOUBIGTWAT, I didn’t say muscular 42-year-old men
aren’t sexy. What I said was, TWs look better on boyish and
slim and hairless guys—and I stand by that statement.
For a big, tall, muscular, middle-aged man, YOUBIGTWAT, you’re
quite a crybaby. My pointing out that boyish guys look hot
in TWs is not the same thing as saying that mannish and beefy
and hairy guys aren’t also sexy. You are (or can be), just
not in TWs.
You are appalling and disgusting. You repeatedly dropped
your own e-mail address in a recent column, begging for pictures
of young men in panties. (You call them “tighty-whities,”
but they are panties to me.) Is this professional? You should
be ashamed of yourself! You are abusing your position of trust
to collect pictures of beautiful men in their underpants—and
you have no plans to share those pictures with the rest of
was all set to send you a picture of my boyfriend who is boyish
and slim and hairless and looks fantastic in tighty-whities,
but then I realized you were only looking for pictures of
guys with GIRLFRIENDS. Oh well.
happened to your plagiarism contest? Did someone win? Did
someone go to Las Vegas? What gives?
going to kill three letters with one response. . .
First, WIN’s letter: In March of this year, I ran five letters
sent to me by Savage Love readers with five responses lifted
from books of advice that I didn’t write. I challenged my
readers to identify the five writers whose works I plagiarized,
and the first person to correctly identify all five was promised
a trip to Las Vegas. But some of the writers I plagiarized
were too obscure, and the few people who correctly identified
one or two of my sources wrote to tell me that they’ve given
So . . . I’m canceling the plagiarism contest. Sigh. Here
are the five writers whose works I plagiarized, listed from
least- to most-obscure: David Reuben (Everything You Always
Wanted to Know About Sex . . . But Were Afraid to Ask,
1969); Ann Landers (Ann Landers Talks to Teenagers About
Sex, 1963); Lewis B. Smedes (Sex for Christians,
1976); Eugene Schoenfeld (Dear Doctor Hip-pocrates,
1968); B.G. Jeffries (Safe Counsel: Advice to Maiden, Wife,
and Mother, 1901).
Ironically, the plagiarism contest was launched after I cancelled
a previous contest, the Reader’s Sexual Fantasy Contest. After
reading upwards of 4,000 fantasies submitted by my readers,
I concluded (perhaps unfairly) that other people’s sexual
fantasies are BORING. One trip to Vegas, two cancelled contests.
God, I suck at this contest shit. Since all my contest ideas
seem are either too difficult or too boring, and since I still
have this trip to Las Vegas to give away, I’ve decided to
lower the bar: The new win-a-trip-to-Las-Vegas-with-Dan-Savage
contest is . . . The “My Man Sure Looks Hot in His Tighty-Whities”
Savage Love readers who have boyfriends—male or female readers,
gay or straight (that should satisfy Matt B)—are invited to
send me pictures of their boyfriends in a pair of tighty-whities.
The best looking boy in a pair of tighty-whities will win
a trip to Las Vegas for himself and his significant other.
BUT WAIT! As YOUBIGTWAT thoughtfully pointed out, I have a
bias: I only think guys who are boyish and slim and hairless
look good in TWs. To set YOUBIGTWAT’s mind at ease, I am
disqualifying myself as a judge. So who’ll be judging
this contest? YOU WILL. All the pictures sent to me by my
readers will be posted on a Web site (that should satisfy
Erica H). Savage Love readers will then vote on the guy who
looks the hottest in his tighty-whities, and that man and
his S.O. will be winging it to Las Vegas for the weekend.
The fine print: Candid shots only, please,
no professional photos, studio shots or porn stars. These
pictures are going to be posted on a Web site, so bear that
in mind. I will put little black bars over everyone’s eyes
to protect people’s identities unless you tell me otherwise.
The deadline for submitting a photo of your boyfriend in his
TWs is June 30, and the voting begins on July 4. Good luck,